Collecting evidence

It can be a good idea to keep a record of things that happen between you and any abusive or threatening person
This can be used as evidence if you ever need to make a police report, get a protection order, or seek custody of children
Having any important conversations through email or text message can help to keep a record of what has been said.

Keeping a record

It’s a good idea to keep a record of abusive or frightening things that happen. This can help with protection orders or child custody cases. Make sure to keep this record in a safe place where it won’t be found or destroyed by the abusive person.

Evidence of violence or abuse might include:

A diary of abusive or worrying things that have happened
Photos of physical injuries or damage to things that you own
Copies of digital communication like emails and text messages — it’s a good idea to have important conversations that you want to remember the details of through emails. This might include conversations about children, money or abusive incidents that have happened. It’s much easier to keep a record of these things when they are written down.
Bank statements or things to do with money, including money owed to you or child support
Contact made when there is a protection order in place
Calendar of events that have happened, or missed events (such as child access).

For more information about evidence collection, you can download useful resources from the SmartSafe and TechSafety websites. These resources have been made to help people who are experiencing violence or abuse to keep a record of things that have happened.

TechSafety

DVRCV Technology and family violence

WESNET - The Women's Services Network

Next steps

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